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Have you compelled them to come to the banquet yet?

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Recently I spent some time with some new and old friends talking about ministry.  We were eating together, as is the case with many church workers.  I enjoy food, but the guys I was eating with seemed to enjoy it just a little bit more… well actually a lot more. They love to share food with each other and enjoy the experience together. It was a great time. I love food and I love how good food can bring about such good conversation. It is a way for many of us to break down walls and really listen. (Mostly the listening comes from stuffing our faces with food.) Good food really does bring about great joy and conversation.

This eating together reminded my of a text of scripture I recently read while preparing some of my students for 30 hour famine. Luke 14:12-24, is one of my favorite texts in scripture. I love how Jesus invited the the lowly.  He calls the crippled and the lame.  The crippled, who in Jesus’ day were the outcasts.  The people who wouldn’t have been allowed in the temple or anywhere God was present, because they were unclean, unworthy to be in God’s presence and grace.  They were unworthy to join in the fellowship because they weren’t good enough.  Jesus in this parable reminds us that we who sit at the table are the lowly beggars the sick and lame. We are not worthy to be in His presence but we are anyway, because of his graciousness.  We give thanks to God for this.

More importantly I was struck by Luke 14:23 after the crippled and lame are invited he was to go out and compel them to come.  I have always been fascinated by this part of the story.  You see as a disciple of Jesus I am asked to be like him.  He compels them to come in.  How am I compelling my neighbor to come and be at the banquet.  I think many of us just drop the invite and throw up are hands when they don’t come.  Here Jesus seems to tell us to go and compel them to come.  Be more forceful.  Sometimes I wonder if when we got the invite and went to His banquet, why don’t I go to my friends, family, even enemies and share with them this awesome place of nourishment we have in Jesus.  This place where we eat and are satisfied. Where we have true fellowship in God.  I pray for myself to have heart of invitation and a want to compel my neighbor, not just selfishness for myself.

So the question remains for all of us. Have you compelled them to come to the banquet yet?

Sharing faith one person at a time…Dont play the numbers game.

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The numbers can be a the hardest part of serving in ministry.  We all want more people at Church. We all want more people to be involved in ministry. We all want more people to know Jesus. The problem is numbers can be a big reason people leave serving in ministry.  Numbers can be a chock hold on how you serve in ministry because it becomes too much of the focus in ministry and life.

As I have been looking around at those I have seen in ministry the numbers game has been a big reason people leave. They get sick of it.  They really miss just being with people. I am someone who looks at numbers in ministry.  I track attendance and do look at how many people show up as a measure of successful ministry or events. It can tell you if you have done something with worth. The problem with numbers in ministry is, you can have big numbers and it mean nothing in peoples lives, you can get very little done for events or very few people show up, but you have been a part of changing people’s lives.  You see numbers can be important, but people are actually the more important part.  In fact they are the most important part.  It is hard to quantify.  It is hard to make a report that counts all the conversations, all the little comments that really helped someone through their day.  A word of grace that you shared in their life that helped them see Jesus.

In ministry I spend time planning all sorts of events.  I plan VBS, Sr. High youth group, chili cook-offs, mission trips, a multitude of bible studies, but those are all designed to do something.  They are designed to help parents, adult and students have opportunities to share Jesus with each other.  They are all designed to help them see Jesus.

So one of my problems with the numbers games is that I can spend 1000s of hours on things, and say we have 10,000 students at Youth events.  The problem is that isn’t the right number.  The right thing to look at isn’t numbers.  The thing I try to ask myself is did I help the student, family, or friend through the parent’s divorce.  Did I help the family deal with a student struggling with death of a friend, or parent.  Did I sit with a parent as they struggle with their relationship with their child.  You see those things aren’t easily quantified.  Sometimes I will spend 12 hours over two days helping one person.  You might say that wasn’t the best use of my time.  I only worked with one person.  Sometimes I don’t have the best planned youth event because I ran out of time.  The reality is I spent time with a person who needed my time. I got to be a part of Jesus’s ministry in their life.

I am reminded of a great story in the Bible about the feeding of the 5000 (John 6:1-14). When the boy’s fish and bread are used by Jesus.  I like to think of myself as the boy who gets to be involved in Jesus’ ministry.  I get to have an impact on peoples lives.

The same applies for your life.  It isn’t about numbers in my relationships. It is about the individuals I am ministering with.  My goal isn’t how many people can I walk around and share Jesus with, but what few people am I going to invest in so that they know Jesus better. So they experience God’s grace.

The numbers are important, but individual people are more important.

Putting Jesus first in my life??? No I want more.

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Lately I have been thinking about something my pastor said when we were talking about the first commandment (Exodus 20:3).  He said something I have been wrestling with for a while. He said Jesus shouldn’t be #1 he should be everything.  It is a profound statement. It really made me rethink my whole life. You see I always thought about Jesus asking me to take up my cross and follow him meant I should make him first. I thought that it meant I was supposed to go to church on Sunday, lead bible studies, do daily devotions, pray before meals and all those good Jesus things. I thought if I could do all those things then I could be a man who put God first.

As we all know, we can’t even meet this simple requirement.  I failed in praying everyday. I failed in reading my bible everyday. (I didn’t fail the “go to Church thing,” but its probably because I work for one.) As I have studied the scripture more and more I have seen Jesus not just call me to think about him first but to think about him in every situation. My life is different when I think of my spouse and think about how Jesus should be the center of that relationship. It is different to think about when I talk with my family it should have Jesus as the center. When I drive my car down the road and some crazy nut cuts me off and drives me off the road Jesus should be at the center of that situation.  If you don’t believe me look at Luke 15:25-27.

I suppose you could be reading this right now and think WWJD.  You know that catch phrase from the 1990’s. (What would Jesus do) If you are hearing that please listen again.  WWJD isn’t a terrible thing, I should try to follow his example. However when I talk about Jesus being the center of it all that isn’t what I am getting at. It also doesn’t make it any easier to remember what Jesus would do because well… I am not Jesus. I fail.  It doesn’t mean I shouldn’t try but that also shouldn’t be my focus.  The thing about this Jesus being the center of it all is Jesus is in those relationships, those situations in our life when we fail to put him at the center. When we fail Jesus is there to pick us up. When you think about those relationships we know Christ is in the middle of those relationships helping us through. Jesus is the one who gives us hope.

So I guess what I am saying is I don’t want Jesus to be number one. I want Jesus to be in all of it at the center. He is the one who changes me and those relationships so that He can be the center of it all.

So lets try this prayer.

Jesus be the center of my life.  I want to be your disciple, I will fail, but Lord help me to follow you and keep you as the center of it all.

We love the new, and hate the broken.

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I love new things. I love to new toys, games, tablets, computers, music and everything else in between. I also love new friendships, new people, new ideas, new everything. We all love new things.

The problem we have is, we all love new things so much, after a few months those new things get old. We love the new TV until 3 months later the new TV looks old, we love our new cell phone up until 3 months later when we drop our phone and notice the new ding on the side or crack the screen. We love our new friends and new people in our lives up until they give us a few dings, or really we start to notice the dings they have on them. They don’t look new after a short time.

Today I am thinking about relationships in my life that have been dinged. Those relationships that have seen the screen cracked or marked. Those relationships with my fellow believers in Christ that are broken and bruised. I want them to be new. I want them to go back to the way they were when I got them all new and shiny. The trouble is I am looking at it from the wrong place. You see I am trying, like many of us, to make something new myself. I a broken human being am trying to make this thing this relationship new when the only way it is new is through Christ.

2 Corinthians 5:17-18 says something amazing about our newness.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; (ESV)

Titus 3:5 also says:
But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit, 6 whom he poured out on us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior,

These verses talk about how our relationship with God is made new. My relationships can be made new each and every day because I have been made new each and every day, when I remember my old self being drowned in that water of baptism every day. This week I got to see a young person in 3rd grade baptized because he heard in his Lutheran day school about what that water does. How it makes him new in Christ. How in brings to us the forgiveness of sins. He wanted to be made new.

So how about us. I am reminded each and every day of my broken, not so new self and not so new relationships. I also know that each and everyday through Christ’s continually working in me I am made new. Those relationships that are also broken because of all our sin can be made new as well. Christ’s work in me and my fellow believer gives me the greatest hope as I continue to try mend those broken relationship with those around me. May it give you that hope as well.

Family Devotions…My biggest failure as man!

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So my family has never been really good at spending time in Gods word each night. Heck I haven’t ever been very good at doing personal devotions but I know it is my responsibility to be the leader of my household and passing on faith to my children.  We as a family are not super consistent and fail to do it every day but try to be faithful. So why is advent any different…Well it isn’t but it is a great time for get you family involved in prayer and devotion.

During Advent you have some very real opportunities to get you family involved in family devotions.  It can be a time for everyone to spend time together. We have used this time because their are so many opportunities to share your faith with your family. It is a time you can get gather together to share the good news of Jesus and his coming.

So why is advent such a good time…well first you have a plethora of different devotionals put out by a number of great organizations and groups. Pick one and go for it.  It should be short and should be pointing you to Jesus and his coming.  You have advent calendars with ….chocolate! This can help  you think about the anticipation of Advent.  You also have children who after thanksgiving your children are looking forward to the eager anticipation of Christmas presents… well that is not really helpful.  Lastly and my personal favorite is the advent wreath.  It is a time to remind us of the light and anticipation for the Coming of Jesus again.  You can talk about the hope we have in Jesus.  It is just a great way for families to involve children in the devotional moment.  My children are now asking about how they can be involved in the devotions. They light and blow out the candles, say the prayers, read the devotions and preform the blessings.

This leads me to my last and final point. Get your children involved.  A few weeks ago I lead a advent devotional program at Church for school families and shared with them ways to get the kids involved.  I even gave them an outline I would like to share here. (I actually think this a variation on faith inkubators family five)

  • Invocation in the name of the Father Son and Holy Spirit, (My 5 year old daughters favorite part is doing the sign of the cross over the whole family and then herself.)
  • Highs and Lows for the day
  • Bible reading (Kids take turns reading the short devotion or Bible verse)
  • Prayers (sometime items from Highs and Lows, sometimes Lord’s prayer, apostles creed of 10 commandments)
  • Blessing Anything would work but we use (The Grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Love of God the Father and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all) Again the sign of the cross to remind us of the blessing of our baptism.
So with all that being said don’t think of this as a law moment. This isn’t about guilt or look at how well we do it.  This is about spending time in the Word of God to help your family grow in faith.  May Christ bless you this year as you eagerly await the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.